Be kind to yourself. You’ve heard this message before. Perhaps you’re fairly positive and kind to yourself. Good job! Maybe you struggle with this notion and beat yourself up for simple mistakes. Maybe you don’t consider how muttering “idiot” under your breath could be bad and unkind. All of us have good and bad days where being kind to ourselves is a struggle.
When I was born, my parents began attending courses taught by John Boyle of Omega Seminars. These seminars were a lesson in positive thinking and affirmations. It was a new idea at the time and they were eager to learn. They brought their experience into the home and often would insist that we use the phrases they had learned over the weekend. “I love myself unconditionally” or “I love and accept myself” were both popular phrases.
I grew up with this positive outlook and although neither I nor my parents were always excellent at saying and following all of our affirmations, it set a solid foundation for me to continue with positive thinking and affirmations today.
But we still have our days where we just don’t believe that saying the phrase, “I love and accept myself” will help us lose five pounds. We want proof! And I have it!
You may have heard of Masaru Emoto. He came to popularity when his first book was published in 1999. That might not ring any bells yet but maybe you’ve heard of the book he released in 2005, The Hidden Messages in Water. Dr. Emoto led experiments to see what would happen to water if you spoke positive messages versus negative messages. He would expose the water to these messages, freeze it, and then take a photograph. The positive messages created beautiful, rounded, and symmetrical crystals. The negative messages created crystals that were jagged and fractured.
He was able to capture proof of positive thoughts over negative thoughts.
There’s so much more research to support positive thinking and affirmations as a vehicle to increased health, happiness, and prosperity. If you’re looking for some solid research and need very heady information, the National Center for Biotechnology Information has a great report here. And of course, one of my favorite experts on this topic is Louise Hay. She was a pioneer in positive affirmations when she began her work in 1970.
So be kind to yourself and when you feel yourself getting frustrated or critical, say these three things to yourself:
1. I am trying
2. I will do better next time
3. I love and accept myself unconditionally.