We’ve all heard this saying and maybe even said to someone. But when that door closes for you, sometimes it’s hard to feel so positive about where things are going.
So what can you do to get yourself into a more positive state?
First, go ahead and let all the anger & panic out. Maybe you need to go for a run or scream. Get it out. I always say it’s better to let it out then hold onto it.
Second, give yourself some reflection time. Be honest with yourself. Is this door closing a good thing? Was it something that you really didn’t want in the first place? If you really did want it, is now the best time for this opportunity? Maybe you don’t want it but you need it, like a job to pay the bills. Try not to get caught up and over thinking but just stop and really feel what’s going on within you.
Giving yourself time to reflect on what’s happened can help you get really clear about what you really do want or need. Perhaps that door closing is in alignment with what you truly wanted but not in alignment with what you need. For example, perhaps you need the job to pay the bills but your heart isn’t in it.
Can you change your thinking so that you can accomplish both? I believe so! I believe that we’re always manifesting what we want whether we know it or not. You could decide that for the next year or two you will gladly do the work that you need to do because you know it’s taking you to the work you want to do.
Working with affirmations and goal setting can help you create a plan to move you into what you want and affirming the steps to take you there.
But what if you can’t even get yourself out of anger and despondency? When you’re feeling hopeless and tired of trying it can be incredibly hard to move out of that energy into a better place so that you can create a new vision for yourself and find that new door. You need to shift your energy.
How do you shift your energy? Well I know a lot of people, myself included, who can shift their mood really fast with a glass of wine or a big piece of cake. What I’m hoping though, is for a healthier option and one where you can stay present and connected and not numb out to what’s going on for you.
What works for one person might not work for you. You might want to try a few things and notice how you feel. Give it some time and be patient. You might try watching a very silly and funny movie. I love Will Ferrell. It’s so ridiculous that I have to laugh and have a good time. I also love to run. There’s nothing like running to help me clear out the cobwebs. One day, I was so frustrated I ran out of my house like a girl on fire. I ran about three blocks before I realized I was so out of breath and had over-exerted myself. I was desperate to shift my energy. You might try singing or dancing. You don’t have to go out to do this but shut your curtains and dance in your living room. No one will know and I’m sure you’ll have a great time. I have also found that a dog makes a great dance partner.
After you try a few things you’ll notice you start to feel better. It’s in this new, shifted energy, that you can go back and really think about what you want next and start working on creating that new vision for yourself. Close your eyes and imagine what that new door will look like and what’s behind it when you open it. Imagine all aspects of what you want and need. Try to be brave and free instead of hedging your vision. Feel the emotions that you’ll have when this vision becomes reality. “When” not “if”. Believe it and feel it in your bones.
Once your vision becomes a reality, you might be okay with the statement “when one door closes, another one opens” and wonder which door is next.