Confessions From A Control Freak

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Confessions From A Control Freak I used to be a major control freak.  My controlling tendencies ran through all parts of my life.  I tried to control everything from my extended family holiday menu to the order in which to put items in the dishwasher to every detail in my past career as an event manager.  I didn’t think it … Read More

Can You Find Balance in Relentlessness?

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Relentless. This word has been in my mind over the last few weeks. I’ve experienced relentless behavior by others, remembered it within my father, and recognized it in myself. There are pros and cons to being relentless. Merriam-Webster defines relentless as: “showing or promising no abatement of severity, intensity, strength, or pace”. Ouch. That sounds exhaustingly painful. I used to … Read More

Use Your Words

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When I was in my twenties, I wasn’t very good at using my words or asking for what I wanted. I often went along with what everyone else was doing, saying “fine by me,” when it often wasn’t “fine”. I was very agreeable. I dated a man off and on for years during this time and never asked for what … Read More

Moving Past the Fear.

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I posted on my Facebook page a link to today’s Daily Buddha post, “Love Your Work”.  We’ve all heard this message so much and I think we all truly want to follow this advice.  I believe in this advice. For many people though, loving your work & following your bliss, may require a leap of faith from your current situation.  … Read More

Letting Go

Kerstin McInnis, A Cake Walk LifeChoices, Happiness, Self-Love4 Comments

“Can we still be friends?”  This is a phrase I’m sure most of us have heard at one time in our life.  It’s most often heard at the end of a romantic relationship, typically by the dumper and not the dumpee.  Sometimes it’s a question. Other times it’s a negotiation point, “but we can still be friends,” intended to soften … Read More

Avoidance & Learning

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I am witnessing the demise of my mother. My mother is 84 years old and in moderate health. She is slightly overweight, 30 pounds or so, with high blood pressure. Her mind is fairly sharp though, especially considering her age. She enjoys reading and traveling and doesn’t appear as old as her age suggests. Yet, I can see she is … Read More

Laughing in the Face of Fear

Kerstin McInnis, A Cake Walk LifeChoices2 Comments

Sometimes we make a change in our life that is needed but we feel unsure.  You want the change and are excited to have it, but there’s a little piece of you that is fearful and uncertain.  Unfortunately that little piece can be very loud. Perhaps your whole life you were an engineer.  Every day of your entire life you’ve … Read More

When One Door Closes, Another One Opens

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We’ve all heard this saying and maybe even said to someone.  But when that door closes for you, sometimes it’s hard to feel so positive about where things are going. So what can you do to get yourself into a more positive state? First, go ahead and let all the anger & panic out.  Maybe you need to go for … Read More