Bridge. Kerstin McInnis, Career Transition Coach

Three Questions To Ask Yourself In A Time Of Change

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“Drive across the bridge.  You don’t have to understand it all right now.  Information and understanding will come later.  You’ll get to the other side.  For now, trust and experience what you’re going through.  Know that this time of change is sacred, too.”  ~ Melody Beattie

My life has felt as if it was in a “time of change” for the last two years.  But especially, over the last week, after celebrating my birthday, I’ve really felt that I’m at a point of change.  I’ve been scared to take steps.  I’ve been scared to cross the bridge to the other side.  Yesterday I felt really scared, alone and helpless.  All emotions that I don’t like to readily admit.  I’ve always done everything on my own.  I haven’t asked for help or been willing to accept help.  I walked in circles in my house wondering what to do.  So I grabbed the book “Journey to the Heart” by Melody Beattie.  The entry for October 19th read:

“Honor This Time of Change –

..Times of change are holy.  We may not know where we’re going.  It may not feel like our feet are on solid ground.  They aren’t.  We’re crossing a bridge to another part of our lives. 

                Sometimes we may find ourselves at this bridge unwittingly, not certain how we got there, not certain we want to cross.  Other times, we may have sought, prayed for, hoped for, longed for this time of change.”

For me, I have longed for this bridge that is before me.  But I’ve always wanted all the information and understanding first.  In my past, I haven’t been patient to wait for it to come later.  When I walk through a labyrinth, I run through it to get to the end.  I want to know what’s there rather than experience the journey of walking through it.   I like destinations.  I like end results.  I like packages tied with bows.

But I have also learned that I’m not helpless nor am I alone.  I can accept help to cross my bridge.  I don’t have to do it alone.  I know I’m supported and have all the people and tools I need.  Knowing that I don’t have to do it all by myself is empowering and freeing.  It makes me feel lighter and happier.  It makes me feel more capable.

So rather than running across the bridge, to race to my destination.  I am taking baby steps.  I am allowing myself to feel awkward and unsure.  I am allowing myself to “not know”.  I am feeling and experiencing everything that comes my way.  I am allowing my loved ones to support me.  I am asking for and accepting help.

  1. What can you honor within your own life as you navigate the changes before you?
  2. What help and support can you allow others to gift to you?
  3. What awareness can you gain by experiencing the changes before you?






2 responses to “Three Questions To Ask Yourself In A Time Of Change”

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    Nice read; I can’t help but wonder, “What’s cookin’?” Sounds like quite a bit.

    Sent from my iPhone


    1. Kerstin McInnis, A Cake Walk Life Avatar

      Hi George,
      Thanks for reading. 🙂 Lots of adjustments and change on the career front. Let’s chat in person!

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