Use Your Words

Kerstin McInnis, A Cake Walk LifeBelief in self, HappinessLeave a Comment

When I was in my twenties, I wasn’t very good at using my words or asking for what I wanted. I often went along with what everyone else was doing, saying “fine by me,” when it often wasn’t “fine”. I was very agreeable. I dated a man off and on for years during this time and never asked for what … Read More

Life’s Hurdles

Kerstin McInnis, A Cake Walk LifeChoices2 Comments

When I was in high school, I had a friend who ran the hurdles. She was a year older, a few inches taller than me and with very long lean legs. Watching her run the hurdles was a beautiful sight. I probably only watched her once but it stuck with me. She raced down the track, arms poised in 90-degree … Read More

Avoidance & Learning

Kerstin McInnis, A Cake Walk LifeChoices, Family2 Comments

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I am witnessing the demise of my mother. My mother is 84 years old and in moderate health. She is slightly overweight, 30 pounds or so, with high blood pressure. Her mind is fairly sharp though, especially considering her age. She enjoys reading and traveling and doesn’t appear as old as her age suggests. Yet, I can see she is … Read More

The Most Loving Thing You Can Do

Kerstin McInnis, A Cake Walk LifeChoices, Family, Support2 Comments

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“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results,” said Albert Einstein. Have you seen that quote? I’m sure you have, as it’s very popular. I’ve seen it a million times and have always loved it. I felt empowered and energized by it. It has inspired me to try to do things differently. Today however, it has left a sour taste in my mouth. Today as I read it, I’m thinking of my mother.

The Beingness of Loss

Kerstin McInnis, A Cake Walk LifeLoss11 Comments

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My love’s heart is broken. Last night, I watched, as he said goodbye to his kids as they prepare to depart for Germany. They live there permanently with their mother and will return on Wednesday. We dropped them off last night to her at her parents’ house, where she’s been staying during their visit. As he hugged his 2nd oldest … Read More

I Choose

Kerstin McInnis, A Cake Walk LifeChoicesLeave a Comment

There’s a homeless man that lives in an alcove of my building. His name is Mike. He doesn’t fit the image of most homeless men in my neighborhood. He appears very clean, takes care with his appearance, and wears a gold wedding band. He sleeps in the alcove. By 7am, he’s rolled up his items, cleaned up the space and … Read More